Is it ok...

for married people to have crushes?? And I don't mean celebrity, if I had a chance in hell type crushes, just the average run of the mill, person on the street sort.

My husband and I are in agreement, so that's good. We both think it's OK, that basically it's human nature and just because you're married doesn't mean you're all dried up. You'd be surprised how nonplussed he was after the numerous times I told him I was leaving him for Adam Lambert - and I knew he was gay before my hubby did.

However, I do wonder if part of our being OK has to do with being with each other from such young ages (18 & 20). It's kind of hard to be that young and not have some sort of something at some point. Also, we, well I am at least, tend to be pretty open about opinions of people. For instance, I have no problem telling my husband I think another guy (girls too, sometimes) is hot. He laughs at me. The fact he's particularly self confident (a characteristic of his that was a huge turn-off at the beginning), added to the fact he's the exact opposite of my taste in men, so I'm not exactly looking at guys similar to him, he takes no issue.

Same thing with generalized flirting. We again agree that it's healthy, normal human behavior. It's not like either of us out there going ooh, he's or she's hot, let me try flirting - THAT would be WRONG.

And it's not that either of us is that liberal with our relationship definitions. I believe the phrase "I'd have to kill you" has come into play when more serious scenarios have been discussed. Anything PHYSICAL is way, way, WAY out of bounds. Lying too, is on the no list. Of course he can't lie for anything and I can't not tell him things, so that helps. Maybe it also helps that we have defined boundaries in place and know what we expect of each other.

So I want to know - are YOU okay with crushes and/or flirting or NOT and why or WHY NOT????